Single in the City

Over the last few months I have chatted to numerous people who are either  in the “Single and ready to mingle” phase of their adulthood or looking for the ever illusive “One”.

Times have certainly changed since I last dated! Dating (to me) seems more like a business transaction these day.

A case of what can you do for me or almost like shopping at a meat market for the special of the day.

So I approached a few fabulous singles who have agreed to give us a sneak peek into the dating world in 2017.

I have asked each of them a bunch of random questions to which I have shared the answers to below. These are anonymous of course.

Melanie* 27 years old – Beauty therapist

  1.  How long have you been single for/not in a committed relationship?
    5 months
  2. Is there a reason for this?
    Sometimes it’s just not meant to be
  3. What do you find challenging about dating in 2017?
    In general I feel like people no longer take relationships seriously, there’s no respect, no loyalty, lack of communication.
  4. Your ideal partner?
    Someone that is willing to be patient with me, I can be rather difficult, also someone that would treat me the way in which they expect to be treated.
  5. Dream date?
    Sitting at the beach for hours on end just talking, nothing beats that.
  6. Worst date that you have ever been on?
    Went from a supper to a violent night.
  7. Have you tried online dating or mobile dating apps? What was it like?
    Lol yes, no no no never again
  8. Do you think 2017 holds promise in the romance section of your life?
    Honestly I have no idea, whatever is meant to happen will happen!

Rasta* 27 years old – Service Specialist

  1.  How long have you been single for/not in a committed relationship?
    3 years.
  2. Is there a reason for this?
    Personal choice over and above being picky.
  3. What do you find challenging about dating in 2017?
    Technology and social media.
  4. Your ideal partner?
    Private and very private.
  5. Dream date? Typical dinner on the roof top of the tallest building.
  6. Worst date that you have ever been on? The guy was not well spoken and I had to ask twice in order to understand what he was trying to say.
  7. Have you tried online dating or mobile dating apps? What was it like?
    I have…and still do. it’s fun!
  8. Do you think 2017 holds promise in the romance section of your life?
    I am not holding my breath but let’s see what happens.

Kristy* 25 years old – Educational Psychologist

  1.  How long have you been single for/not in a committed relationship?
    9 month single.
  2. Is there a reason for this?
    Partner wanted space and then never came back.
  3. What do you find challenging about dating in 2017? Guys are not looking to pursue girls like they used to. If they do not get what they want, they leave. They are not looking for commitment.
  4. Your ideal partner? Thoughtful and someone who wants to work through both the good and difficult times.
  5. Dream date? Candlelight dinner and stimulating conversation.
  6. Worst date that you have ever been on? Taken to a club, where he got insanely drunk and I had to get my friends to bring me home.
  7. Have you tried online dating or mobile dating apps? What was it like?
    Never tried online dating. Don’t think I would.
  8. Do you think 2017 holds promise in the romance section of your life?
    I hope so. However, I feel put off by dating currently.

Sarah* 25 years old -Finance

  1.  How long have you been single for/not in a committed relationship?
    2 years.
  2. Is there a reason for this? Not really. Just enjoying life I suppose 🙂
  3. What do you find challenging about dating in 2017? Well…lol it isn’t much of a challenge yet if you haven’t tried. I am just very fussy so I suppose I have standards that have not been met as yet.
  4. Your ideal partner?
    I haven’t really put too much thought into this to be honest, I would probably want a partner who can possess similar qualities of my father as this should be the only male figure a lady would compare her potential partner to.If you are treated like a princess, then someone has big boots to fill 🙂
  5. Dream date? Great food and a great view to go with it??? Maybe a picnic on a mountain…that would be awesome overlooking a sunrise or sunset:-) Simplicity is key.
  6. Worst date that you have ever been on? Haven’t experienced this yet.
  7. Have you tried online dating or mobile dating apps? What was it like?
    I have not and probably won’t.
  8. Do you think 2017 holds promise in the romance section of your life?
    I believe that what is meant to be will be 🙂 This year is full of possibilities so who knows!!!

Bradley* 32 years old – Engineer

  1.  How long have you been single for/not in a committed relationship?
    6 years.
  2. Is there a reason for this? My heart was broken so I buried myself in work and studies.
  3. What do you find challenging about dating in 2017? Females are different…where do you even find a good one these days? All they seem to do is sit on social media…so where does and old school guy go to meet an old school girl!
  4. Your ideal partner?
    Female…easy to talk to…down to earth…must love Harry Potter and Lord of the Rings as well as Marvel movies. She must interact well with my crew…food lover…love to have fun…someone career and goal orientated…dirty sense of humor essential
  5. Dream date? Bee and burger…love a women who loves her food!
  6. Worst date that you have ever been on? Doing something really special for the wrong person 😦
  7. Have you tried online dating or mobile dating apps? What was it like?
    Yes I have…but I felt like the apps were too judgmental
  8. Do you think 2017 holds promise in the romance section of your life?
    No.

When conducting my research for this post, I approached 3 guys and 3 girls. Sadly, only one guy was brave enough to give us his honest feedback.

I hope you enjoyed this blog post…let me know your dating experiences (the good. the bad and the ugly) by leaving me a comment.

To my sexy singles…hang in there…sometimes you have to kiss a few frogs before you you find your Prince or Princess.

Try not to focus on finding a relationship…enjoy being single and all the adventures that come with it.

You are fun…free…fabulous and single…now go out there and own it!!!

Xoxo

Tenie

A huge shout out to all my followers…thank you for all the support 🙂

*These names are fictional.

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4 thoughts on “Single in the City

  1. Oh, that’s a hell of a post for anybody who loves her own company. I enjoyed reading through the answers and most importantly, I believe staying single is our own choice. We must celebrate our lives however we wish to. ☺

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