The interview

I decided to give you a quick insight into what makes me tick…so instead of being boring and interviewing myself, I asked an artistic soul to come up with a few interview questions for me to answer.

Here goes…😊

1. With the world revolving around technology…where do you see blogging career going in future?

I see the blog growing and blossoming into a daily article along with a YouTube channel.

2. What inspired you to get into blogging? 

I have been blessed with a love for reading and a great imagination. I decided to share my thoughts and insights with the world.

3. Is there any blogger(could be anywhere in the world) who inspired you to start blogging?

Kim Dao – she is an Australian living in Japan…i love following her travels and adventures.

Popcorn and Pearls – beauty beauty beauty 😍

4. What is your deepest fear?

Being alone 🤔

5. What does creativity mean to you? Being able to express my thoughts and feelings in a way that reflects my personality.

6. Is being a female blogger a challenge? Yes, finding topics that both males and females can relate to and find interesting is sometimes hard.

7. How do you deal with these challenges? I try to find a common topic that I can write about.

8. What is your target audience?

Anyone who wants to see the world through my eyes and has a sense of humor.

9. Do you think south Africans are open to the idea of blogging?

Oh definitely…its definitely becoming a popular outlet. 

10. How did your family receive the news of you being a blogger? 

They are my biggest fans. The feedback has been amazing.

11. How do you manage your time for family, work and blogging?

Thanks to modern technology, I am able to blog from my cellphone. Whenever I think of something…i start typing via my WordPress app.

12. What do you hope to achieve through blogging? 

To be able to blog as a career….to inspire and give the public articles that they can relate to.

13. Do you think blogging can be used as a platform to raise real issues that we face as a country?

For sure! My blog is on an international platform so any topic that I discuss is seen around the world.

14. Which personal traits do you possess that make you special from all the other bloggers?

My personality is reflected in my writing. I have had feedback from readers saying that it is like having a casual chat with me and that they can relate to me.

15. If you had an opportunity to meet someone through the billowing platform who would it be?

MR Obama

16. Do you see yourself growing your blog into a TV show?

That would be amazing. A talk show.

17. How does your family structure inspire you? Any expected new addition to the family?

I come from a big…loud…rowdy family who love to have fun. We have had so many adventures together and I hope sharing these will help someone out there.

New addition…yes hubby and I just adopted a little fox terrier girl from the SPCA…more to follow.

18. How important is experience when it comes to this platform? Experience is not essential…however,I feel that life experience and a way with words is key.
So that is a little sneak peak into the workings of my mind…feel free to leave my a comment with any other questions that you may have.

Shout out to my boo Vee for the kickass questions 😘

XOXO 

Tenie 

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Hidden gem

Earlier this year, hubby received amazing news….he had won a competition! Now we are not the luckiest of people…but to win a weekend away valued at R10 000 was a dream come true.

The prize was a weekend away for eight people at the KweKwe Private Game Lodge near Marble Hall.

After waiting anxiously for the day to arrive, we set out on our first family holiday in over 10 years.

If any of you have ventured to Limpopo, you know that it isn’t one of the most exciting drives. However, our destination was definitely worth it.

The game lodge has three private and fully equipped residences each with its very own swimming pool and games rooms.

We had the privilege of spending the weekend in the TaTa Somba lodge….wow wow wow 🙂

Our lodge had a rustic African feel to it and so much thought was put into the design. The main house consisted of 3 bedrooms (each ensuite), a guest loo, gorgeous kitchen, dinning room and lounge area. We had our very own patio and boma which we relaxed around at the end of each day.

The lodge had a little private rondavel which hubby and I fell in love with and called home for the weekend. 

TaTa Somba had a private swimming pool as well as a games room with a pool table and table tennis.

What fascinated us the most was that we were surround by the most beautiful landscape and the mystical animals that roamed it.

The lodges are not fenced off as there are no predators on the farm. This meant that we had the privilege of being greeted by giraffe, Rosie the Ostrich (as named by us), wildebeest and different types of buck.

On Saturday morning we ventured out on a game drive which allowed us to get up close to a family of giraffe….definitely a highlight of our trip.

To be able to walk freely with such amazingly magical creatures was a dream come true.

The lodges are fully serviced and the staff were the best.

We were so sad to leave but will definitely be back.

Should you wish to visit KweKwe Private Game Lodge,please contact them on 072 321 7654 or alternately, you may visit their website http://www.kwekwefarm.co.za.

Thank you KweKwe Private Game Lodge as well as Eden Meadows shopping centre for the truely memorable experience.

Xoxo 

Tenie 

Thank you and 1st review!!!


I am so thrilled by the support that my blog is getting from around the world.

The comments and feedback has really been amazing….thank you to each and every person who has taken the time to read through my articles.

I have been requested to write articles around dating tips, where to go on dates and all those exciting topics that we sadly don’t have handbooks for 🙂

These articles are not just focused on couples…it could be friends, siblings or family.

Me personally…I go on sibling dates (which include my hubby) quite often. We use these date nights to venture out and try new things…99% of the time this includes eating out 😊

However, we do still enjoy our childhood favs like a night out at the movies, going bowling or just playing games at the arcade.

One of our most recent adventures led us to a little pub called The Deck Pub and Grill in Edenglen Edenvale.

Now if any of you are YouTube addicts (like me), you know that food challenges are the in thing.

Well this hidden gem does a food challenge every Thursday night.

On the night that we visited, The Deck Pub and Grill had their R95 burger challenge…finish the monster burger in record time and get R300 off your bill.

The record at the time was 4 minutes…so hubby and sibling decide to order the burger but opted to not partake in the challenge as they found the size of the burger a little intimidating lol.

Let me tell you about this amazing piece of burger art… four juicy homemade patties…two fried eggs…perfectly cooked bacon (drool)…. Perfection!

Sibling managed to devour his burger in six minutes (we timed him for fun) and hubby took half home as a doggy bag. I managed to steal a piece and I was really impressed. Definitely one of the best burgers in Edenvale!

I ordered a starter portion of the peri-peri wings and I got a basket of eight succulent and tender wings which were smothered in a perfectly spiced sauce.

I would definitely recommend this hidden treasure to anyone who loves the family friendly pub atmosphere.

The service was top notch, beer perfectly chilled and management super friendly. It is not very often that you find a restaurant that makes you feel at home.

The Deck…you rock!!! We cannot wait to visit again.

The Deck Pub and Grill
0116090773
52 Harris Ave cnr wagenaar strt Edenglen
Bookings are essential.

Xoxo
Tenie

Single in the City

Over the last few months I have chatted to numerous people who are either  in the “Single and ready to mingle” phase of their adulthood or looking for the ever illusive “One”.

Times have certainly changed since I last dated! Dating (to me) seems more like a business transaction these day.

A case of what can you do for me or almost like shopping at a meat market for the special of the day.

So I approached a few fabulous singles who have agreed to give us a sneak peek into the dating world in 2017.

I have asked each of them a bunch of random questions to which I have shared the answers to below. These are anonymous of course.

Melanie* 27 years old – Beauty therapist

  1.  How long have you been single for/not in a committed relationship?
    5 months
  2. Is there a reason for this?
    Sometimes it’s just not meant to be
  3. What do you find challenging about dating in 2017?
    In general I feel like people no longer take relationships seriously, there’s no respect, no loyalty, lack of communication.
  4. Your ideal partner?
    Someone that is willing to be patient with me, I can be rather difficult, also someone that would treat me the way in which they expect to be treated.
  5. Dream date?
    Sitting at the beach for hours on end just talking, nothing beats that.
  6. Worst date that you have ever been on?
    Went from a supper to a violent night.
  7. Have you tried online dating or mobile dating apps? What was it like?
    Lol yes, no no no never again
  8. Do you think 2017 holds promise in the romance section of your life?
    Honestly I have no idea, whatever is meant to happen will happen!

Rasta* 27 years old – Service Specialist

  1.  How long have you been single for/not in a committed relationship?
    3 years.
  2. Is there a reason for this?
    Personal choice over and above being picky.
  3. What do you find challenging about dating in 2017?
    Technology and social media.
  4. Your ideal partner?
    Private and very private.
  5. Dream date? Typical dinner on the roof top of the tallest building.
  6. Worst date that you have ever been on? The guy was not well spoken and I had to ask twice in order to understand what he was trying to say.
  7. Have you tried online dating or mobile dating apps? What was it like?
    I have…and still do. it’s fun!
  8. Do you think 2017 holds promise in the romance section of your life?
    I am not holding my breath but let’s see what happens.

Kristy* 25 years old – Educational Psychologist

  1.  How long have you been single for/not in a committed relationship?
    9 month single.
  2. Is there a reason for this?
    Partner wanted space and then never came back.
  3. What do you find challenging about dating in 2017? Guys are not looking to pursue girls like they used to. If they do not get what they want, they leave. They are not looking for commitment.
  4. Your ideal partner? Thoughtful and someone who wants to work through both the good and difficult times.
  5. Dream date? Candlelight dinner and stimulating conversation.
  6. Worst date that you have ever been on? Taken to a club, where he got insanely drunk and I had to get my friends to bring me home.
  7. Have you tried online dating or mobile dating apps? What was it like?
    Never tried online dating. Don’t think I would.
  8. Do you think 2017 holds promise in the romance section of your life?
    I hope so. However, I feel put off by dating currently.

Sarah* 25 years old -Finance

  1.  How long have you been single for/not in a committed relationship?
    2 years.
  2. Is there a reason for this? Not really. Just enjoying life I suppose 🙂
  3. What do you find challenging about dating in 2017? Well…lol it isn’t much of a challenge yet if you haven’t tried. I am just very fussy so I suppose I have standards that have not been met as yet.
  4. Your ideal partner?
    I haven’t really put too much thought into this to be honest, I would probably want a partner who can possess similar qualities of my father as this should be the only male figure a lady would compare her potential partner to.If you are treated like a princess, then someone has big boots to fill 🙂
  5. Dream date? Great food and a great view to go with it??? Maybe a picnic on a mountain…that would be awesome overlooking a sunrise or sunset:-) Simplicity is key.
  6. Worst date that you have ever been on? Haven’t experienced this yet.
  7. Have you tried online dating or mobile dating apps? What was it like?
    I have not and probably won’t.
  8. Do you think 2017 holds promise in the romance section of your life?
    I believe that what is meant to be will be 🙂 This year is full of possibilities so who knows!!!

Bradley* 32 years old – Engineer

  1.  How long have you been single for/not in a committed relationship?
    6 years.
  2. Is there a reason for this? My heart was broken so I buried myself in work and studies.
  3. What do you find challenging about dating in 2017? Females are different…where do you even find a good one these days? All they seem to do is sit on social media…so where does and old school guy go to meet an old school girl!
  4. Your ideal partner?
    Female…easy to talk to…down to earth…must love Harry Potter and Lord of the Rings as well as Marvel movies. She must interact well with my crew…food lover…love to have fun…someone career and goal orientated…dirty sense of humor essential
  5. Dream date? Bee and burger…love a women who loves her food!
  6. Worst date that you have ever been on? Doing something really special for the wrong person 😦
  7. Have you tried online dating or mobile dating apps? What was it like?
    Yes I have…but I felt like the apps were too judgmental
  8. Do you think 2017 holds promise in the romance section of your life?
    No.

When conducting my research for this post, I approached 3 guys and 3 girls. Sadly, only one guy was brave enough to give us his honest feedback.

I hope you enjoyed this blog post…let me know your dating experiences (the good. the bad and the ugly) by leaving me a comment.

To my sexy singles…hang in there…sometimes you have to kiss a few frogs before you you find your Prince or Princess.

Try not to focus on finding a relationship…enjoy being single and all the adventures that come with it.

You are fun…free…fabulous and single…now go out there and own it!!!

Xoxo

Tenie

A huge shout out to all my followers…thank you for all the support 🙂

*These names are fictional.

Kids???

I am 33 and married for 7 amazing years. The lucky guy is my best friend and soul mate of 15 years.

We dated for 8 years and had our dream wedding 7 years ago.

We bought our own home the year we wed.  No help from parents or long lost wealthy relatives…we did it on our own. Definitely a very proud moment in our lives.

Now comes the question that every person has been asking us “When are the babies coming???”

I don’t know if this is an indian thing or if all cultures have the same pressures. 

Once upon a time..it was normal for people to be married by 26, have the dream house (white picket fence included) aling with 2.5 kids. 

These days things have changed. We have career goals, travel dreams and many adventure to go on before having a kids.

Asking someone when they are having kids is such a personal question…may as well come right out and ask “When you are having sex!”

After many years of being asked this question, i still look like a deer caught in the headlights when the subject comes up.

I don’t see why I should actually answer this question…the choice to reproduce is between spouses.

Its not like I don’t ever want kids (i love them and they love me) but i want to have a kid when we are ready and not when we are required to.

Is this the norm these days? 

Share your experiences with me in the comments.

Xoxo 

Tenie

A huge thank you to all my followers.  I promise to keep it coming 😊

The beautiful depression

Beautiful…depression…these are definitely two words that you would never expect to see together.

Here you are thinking,”Tenie has lost the plot!” 

Let me explain…last year I was diagnosed with major depression and anxiety. This was as a direct result of a traumatic life experience.

My sleep patterns changed, I lost my appetite and was not able to concentrate or remember things…I felt like i was losing myself.

Mental illness has a very negative stigma attached to it however, in my world it is the norm.

I have five people in my immediate family who suffer from either depression or bipolar mood disorder.

Even though I am exposed to it on a daily basis, it was not easy trying to deal with my very own diagnosis. 

I managed to get the help I needed quite quickly and have to pop a pill a day to keep me going…but I have chosen to own it.

Living with any illness is not easy…however, we have to choose to fight. Trust me being positive is sometimes impossible these days but I have come to realise that having a bad day once in a while is ok. 

I have also had to learn that somethings are just out of my control…I have to let go and let God!

Talking about it helps tons…so I have chosen to share this little bit of me today.

XOXO

Tenie

P.s: A huge thank you to each and every person who has taken the time to read my posts. It is so amazing to read your positive feedback. 

 

Magical Makeup

I was blessed in my late 20’s with adult acne. Most people (including me on a bad day) would definitely not see this as a blessing….far from it in fact!

It was like I woke up one morning looking like a lumpy alien creature from planet acne…arrrg! Why why why (bangs head on desk)!!!

I am a tomboy always have been.. wearing makeup meant it was a special occassion. Now suddenly I have this irrational fear of leaving the house….like some famous celebrity being hounded by the infamous paparazzi.

Thank goodness for Google…it became my go to for everything makeup. I would troll the net for hours trying to find something to hide the acne without it feeling like I was wearing makeup…I was searching for the magical unicorn of the makeup world.

Then I remembered that I used Kryolan makeup on my wedding day and loved how comfy it was…could this be my unicorn????

Hubby (being the awesome guy that he is) offered to take me to the Kryolan store in Bramely so that i could check out the offerings…

Fast forward 4 years later…. Hello my name is Tenisha and I am a kryolan (well let’s be honest…makeup in  general) addict!

Makeup has given me this newfound confidence and comfort in my own skin which I simply love.

This blog is the beginning of something new and exciting for me. I will blog weekly with my latest adventures (or misadventures lol).

Stayed tuned for more…

Xoxo 

Tenisha